What are the relationships in pairs?

In another article, I told you about the real needs in relationships and what makes people in relationships really happy. In this article we will consider all other options. You may see yourself from the sidelines and realize that you want something different or that you will be convinced that it is the right choice.

A relationship for pleasure

When the basis of the relationship is pleasure, passion, entertainment, they are likely to be short-term. In addition to receiving one pleasure from another, there will be no other in the relationship or very little and partially. For example, support in any format, mutual assistance, moral and other other development. That is, the goal is predetermined – pleasure. This format and good and not quite acceptable. People get used to such relationships and there is a fear of a more serious option where you have to be responsible for your couple. Most people enter into a relationship in the first place for the sake of pleasure, and then either move to another level, or diverge, because another level may be and is not needed.

Dependency or material gain

Unfortunately this is a classic common type of relationship. People are looking for a couple, thanks to which there will be comfort, unbundling from obligations or satisfying hidden desires. For example, men look for a woman in the name of cooking and cleaning the house. Women are looking for a man for a car or for an existing home. These are more obvious options, in fact there are more of them. Dissatisfaction in such relationships is guaranteed. Also, there is a high probability of conflicts, lack of respect and in general the collapse of such relationships. Feeling in a codependent relationship is fiction and lies. I will give more examples of codependency – women want children for self-realization, people are afraid of loneliness, keeping a person in a relationship with psychological manipulations, lack of independence, creating a pair under the pressure of society, banal affection, creating a pair solely because of visual appeal…

Partnership as a prime target

This has already been written in the article, where the option of happy relations is considered. Everything is simple – two people who can live fully without a couple, self-sufficient and independent, enter into a relationship for the sake of mutual support, if necessary. That is, it may not be necessary, but it is the understanding that the next loved one who will not leave in a difficult time, makes someone happy. Of course, a bonus to this is common interests, entertainment, communication, pleasure and passion. But anyway, even to create such a relationship there should be mutual attractiveness and common views on life.

Personally, I do not criticize certain options. This choice of people, whether conscious or not, depends on many factors. But I am against violence, against psychological pressure and the restriction of human freedom. In Ukraine, if a person is a victim of domestic violence, law enforcement and judicial systems will be on his defense. It is enough to contact the police at number 102.